With a women being raped every 20 minutes, it is indeed an understatement that India is unsafe for women.
Some argue that capital punishment and stricter rules can reduce the number of such heinous crimes against women, but I feel while such norms may be effective to an extent, the root cause is our mentality and “rape culture”.
Rape culture in simple words is the normalization of sexual assault and crimes against women. A fine example would be Donald Trump the “Leader of the free world”, who once said that the easiest to get a women’s attention is to grab them by the vagina and then claimed it was just locker room talk when inquired about. India also has no shortage of such derogatory dialogues with politicians like Mulayam Singh Yadav saying “Rape happens, boys will be boys”.
However in India, the situation is quite complex really. We are a country with the second largest population and the founder of Kamasutra but today, sex or anything related to it is a big taboo and is against our so called “culture”.
For such traditions and values there is no shortage of teen pregnancies and child sexual abuse along with many other atrocities. When a root of a tree is poisoned, the fruits born will be poisonous. Nobody is born a rapist; it is society that ultimately shapes the person. This is the tragic sexism of our society that has led to this chaos.
Right from childhood, we impose various patriarchal notions on our children like how boys should be bold, dominating and outspoken while girls should be soft, fragile and submissive. Such a thought is dangerous as it makes a hierarchy of power and that it is okay for a man to dominate a woman and woman should maintain silence over such crimes.
So don’t just get enraged when a woman is raped, show your anger when a woman is told to take care of herself as if she “provokes” rapists.
What was she wearing? Why did she go out at night? Why was she alone and many more such ludicrous questions are to be challenged. If those questions had some meaning to it there wouldn’t be so many cases of sexual violence against infants, senior citizens, saree or churidar clad women etc.
Rape culture isn’t limited to articles or a few dirty pitfalls, it’s all around us like how hostel timings are different for boys and girls because if the streets may be unsafe for girls, the solution is to lock them up and deny them the right to equal opportunities!!!
The whole issue of this patriarchal mentality isn’t exclusively limited to women’s safety. Paternity leaves for men, removal of article 377 to decriminalize homosexuality and people with different sexual, gender orientations and so many more issues need to be addressed for the betterment of society.
So it’s time to change our mentality in the hopes of making the world a better place!